"It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing... I want to know
if you can be with joy,
mine or your own,
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful,
to be realistic,
to remember the limitations
of being human." -Oriah
(What I have written
below may not be for everyone and that is completely cool. With respect, I ask
you not to judge, but realize that like you, I have feelings, my own purpose,
and my own challenges. Even if you don’t particularly like what I say, please
see I speak from love with the hopes of helping others. Thank you.)
I never really
thought much about that number except for that most people don’t like turning
40. That and the story of Noah’s ark in which it rained for 40 days and 40
nights to kill the “evil” human race- a story I've never been fond of since it scared me as a kid. Thus, 40
never seemed like a good number.
It is a great number
Here are some
positive thoughts/ facts on the number 40:
1)Turning 40 is a gift not everyone gets. Plus, you’re a lot wiser than you
were at 20. (I don’t know about you but there’s no way I’d take the wisdom I’ve
gained for a younger age)
2)Jesus fasted for 40 days and nights in the desert. Then it was 40 days
between the resurrection and ascension of Jesus. (I know religion can rub people the wrong way but I just put this in to show the number throughout history)
3)Your conscious mind can process 40 environmental stimuli per second.
4)Forty is the only number, when spelled out, has its letters in
5)The planet Venus forms a pentagram in the night sky every eight years
with it returning to its original point every 40 years with a 40 day
regression. Some scholars believe that this ancient information was the basis
for the number 40 becoming sacred to Jews, Christians, and Muslims.
6)Buddha is said to have reached enlightenment after mediating and fasting
for 40 days.
How can that help
improve depression or make anyone’s life better with or without depression?
If you can commit to do something
positive for 40 days you can actually change your brain! All you need is
In my personal journey I’m trying
out a few things for 40 days, although just doing one thing would be a great
-First, I’m meditating
for forty days. I’ll do a whole other blog about this but to help you out I
want to make sure you know you don’t have to just sit cross legged trying not
to think, though that may be perfect for some people. I’m currently using guided meditations I found
online but you can even meditate to a positive song you like. For example, if
you’re a woman needing a little confidence you can get your meditation on to
Girl on Fire by Alicia keys. If you want to feel thankful you can meditate to
Kind & Generous to Natalie Merchant.)
-At the end of my
meditation I often find it helpful to take a moment to picture how I want to
feel. Even if you don’t want to full on meditate, I would highly suggest doing
this and you can do it anywhere.
- I’m also trying to
do yoga for 40 days, even if I just have time for one pose. My reason for doing
yoga is that it reminds me to breathe, focus, and balance for my mind and my body.
Mind and body workout!
-The simplest thing I’m
doing, which I am finding to be very effective, is having a mantra to deal with
my negative thoughts. This can change daily, but a mantra I always come back to
is “I forgive myself for my negative thought. I now choose to see love instead
-Lastly, I’m reading May Cause Miracles: A 40 day guidebook of
subtle shifts for radical change and unlimited happiness by Gabrielle Bernstein.
The book is awesome and a perfect addition to my search on healing depression
naturally. However, I’m finding that different authors relate to different
people, so if you check it out and don’t like it, that’s cool, but maybe try
another book aimed at positive thinking.
So that’s my 40 day plan. Please don’t
think you have to do all of that! You can even come up with something else. Just
pick one thing and you’ll be off to a great start. Also, according to spiritual
teachers, it’s okay to miss a day. Forgive yourself and then start at day 1. I
realize that starting over at day 1 might seem a little grueling, but you want
to start something that you can continue and build on for the rest of your life
anyway. Even after the 40 days is up you shouldn’t stop, but maybe try
something a little different. WARNING: If you do decide to try this and you start feeling a little better after a week or so, do not stop! I can almost guarantee that once you start feeling better, a silly little voice is going to tell you that it's okay to stop and you'll still feel okay (which won't be the case). This comes from your ego, the same place where negative thoughts come from, and you must not listen to it. I've started on a better path so many time only to stop doing what was working because I listened to this silly voice. Listen to the loving voice that wants what is best for you.
If anyone has any other suggestion
on a positive pattern that can be done for 40 days please leave a comment
below, I’d love to hear ideas. Also, if you found this helpful, please share
it. I really wish I would have known some of this earlier as I feel strongly
that this information will help me heal my own mind.